Go back to the blueprint, find out where something doesn't align with who you know you are, find the definition that doesn't work for you, find out where you first bought into that definition, and most likely you will find for most of you, it is through no fault of their own, from your parents when you were growing up, in what they believed to be true and imparted unto you telepathically, from before birth, by the time you are approximately three of your years of your age, you are usually very rigidly locked into their belief system structure, because you know you had to accept their beliefs in order to survive, because you recognized, "Oops... these are the people that are going to take care of me, I'd better tow the line and find out what they believe in, otherwise, they're not going to support me, so I will open up like the little innocent flower that I am and swallow every single thing they feed me hook, line and sinker...
whoops, that didn't taste too good, but I better hold on to it because if I don't, they're going to get awfully angry ... they won't love me." You see where this all comes from?
The idea therefore, is again, with no blame... no blame, no blame... but unconditional love, to recognize that they did the best they could with the belief system definitions they were spoon-fed, and that the idea is now to understand... that you have a choice, you have come to a point in transition on your planet at this time, where you can realize that you can break the chain, you can allow yourself the opportunity to realize, it is the product of your definition, and you can change that definition, you can change your upbringing... literally, you can change the past... literally, because everything stems from the present, you can thus re-create yourself quite literally... very really, into a new persona... a new being, and allow the reflection of reality to be presented to that new person, that is representative of who it is you decide in this moment to be with your new definition. It's really, again... just as simple as that.